Going through a rough time...

[Alexnova]

...figured you guys are my friends so I thought I'd share.

Going through a bitter break-up at the moment...its so cruel. I given this girl everything she wanted, but it wasn't what she wanted. She told me she was over with me last night, and told me she was moving out with one of her girlfriends from work. I believed the story, until today. Her Facebook page was up with a chat with a friend of hers, looks like she is moving in with the guy she has been visiting for the past two weeks now. My girl used to come home like at 5 am, and after I was pissed off and asked her what the hell she was doing with this guy until 5 am she simply responded by saying "talking". While that may be true, but over the course of 3 days in a row? I brought it up again, and she didn't want to talk about it or work problems in our relationship...saying she wanted to end it.

I was so addicted to her, and I really need some help recovering. She's so beautiful yet so damaged, and I always wanted to take care of her...but its like she was pushed away by it. I should of saw the warning signs early in the relationship, how she left her ex to be with me, etc.

I can't even describe this pain, it hurts so bad. It's like the whole universe has shattered in front of me, and I have no where to go...no direction.

thought I'd get some stuff off my chest..

[fatlip]

since i know how tough that is... i'm not gonna make fun of you -- but take a look at the original post you made about this girl

[Element]

not much to say besides that with time all wounds heal.

[$lmjimy311]

sorry to hear that man. one of my best friends is going through a nasty break up as well. i wish i had some advice for ya, but like luke said, time heals all wounds, at this point from what you've told us, this relationship was over a little bit ago and some might say before it even started given the circumstances of its birth. take it easy, do things that make you happy. hang with the guys. or you could always just post on here more often

[Alexnova]

since i know how tough that is... i'm not gonna make fun of you -- but take a look at the original post you made about this girl

True, should of saw the warning signs, but I got caught up in my feelings. Did the same thing to her ex...

[Nate]

Yeah, we warned you. Good luck. You seem like nice enough guy.

[mystoneybaby]

This is a horrible situation to be in. I've never been through anything like this so my only advice to you is to do everything you can to get her out of your head. get rid of pictures, hide videos, make sure all of her stuff is out of the apartment..

just make sure it is a clean clean break. The faster you realize you can live without her (and i promise you can) the sooner you will feel better and you will discover that this actually isn't the end of the world.

[Alexnova]

i did some snooping because i wanted to know the truth and she took him to our favorite restaurant. i looked at her phone then when she tells him she feels bad about the breakup he says dont worry we cant hide our liking one another. this crushed me.

[Tehshewz]

As ironic as this sounds.

Don't dwell on this man.

Ive been through that same shit.
Slut is slut. She did this and didn't even give you the respect to break up while she was with you. Fuck her.

Don't believe anything she says when the excuses start popping out.

The best way to deal with this is flip shit on her make her cry and make her understand what she did to you. If you have given her the utmost respect, trust and love. She deserves a verbal ass rape.

Get rid of all her stuff and throw it away and never look back.

In a few months when you think back at this, you will be glad that its done.

It will be hard for a couple weeks but you will get through.


Edit: Try not to snoop. It will only make things worse.

[fatlip]

i'm about to drop a reality bomb in yr shit
everyones saying you'll get over it.. blah blah blah
there's a difference between getting over, and moving on. its how you know if you were in love in the first place.
moving on is tough; but getting over isnt even a choice -- it either happens or doesnt.
all you can do is live your life and try your best to forget

[Jordan311]

Ive been through that same shit.
Slut is slut. She did this and didn't even give you the respect to break up while she was with you. Fuck her.

Don't believe anything she says when the excuses start popping out.

The best way to deal with this is flip shit on her make her cry and make her understand what she did to you. If you have given her the utmost respect, trust and love. She deserves a verbal ass rape.

^

[Jorge]

I feel your pain. Relationships are rough.

I'm with Fatlip. You won't get over this, but you can move on. That's why life is cool. All of your experience is a part of you, but you can consciously separate yourself from that. Neat-o cognitive trick.

The only advice I can give is to build your ego. Recognize how inherently lonely the human experience is (even with friends, family, and significant others), and embrace it. As much as you can connect with others, you ultimately can't fully share your sensory experience, so keep that in mind with your relationships.

You are in control of how you feel. It may take time, and it will suck balls, but you'll move on and be grateful for the experience. I know I was.

Weed and music also help. And Carl Sagan.

[Element]

in carl sagan we trust

[311Baybee]

mannn. That sounds so rough, and i'm sorry. theres alot of good advice here. the snooping is bad because it just makes things worse, sometimes ignorance really is bliss. and im loving the insight here between moving on and getting over. i

my 2 cents: if she tries to wheedle her way back into your life, even in moments of loneliness/weakness, don't let her. when i let someone back into my life, it totally put me back at square one to the moving on process, hurt me more than the initial breakup, and left me feeling terrible about myself. when i made the choice to not let this person back a 2nd time, i was empowered and the pain lessened.

[Nate]

Jorge, weed does not help!

[Alexnova]

Just when I thought i was feeling really happy, I realized she isn't coming home to me tonite.

I remember watching a movie with her on Thursday, and we were perfectly fine in my eyes. She seemed happy, then boom shes gone. Ugh

[Cerpin Taxt]

... if she tries to wheedle her way back into your life...

[greenmonkey911]

don't be reckless with other people's hearts.
don't put up with people who are reckless with yours.

[Jordan311]

... if she tries to wheedle her way back into your life...

[Sparticus]

Weedle is a total ripoff of those worms in Super Mario.